Time is Money? Act 1

November 11th, 2007

    

 I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the books I want to read, and all the friends I want to see.
John Burroughs

Today is the yesterday you worried about tomorrow.
Author Unknown

Blessed is the person who is too busy to worry in the daytime and too sleepy to worry at night.
Author Unknown

 The age old, everlasting statement…..”I am too busy” ” Wish I had more time”…..probably the most used phrase on this planet. Yet time is a finite thing…everybody has the same limitations…the same 24 hours each day to get on with their life. Is there a way to get more than that? Stupid question …..is the probable response! Is there anyway you can retrieve lost time…no way…so why worry about it?

So the only option is therefore to get over it.There will never be enough time to do all the things that you want to do, to make all the money you want to make, to enjoy all the things life has to offer. The secret then possibly, is to make use of the time you have, starting right this minute.

Time is money? Yes ….and no. Money can be replaced if lost……Replace time?…that’s another frontier mankind has been unable to reach into.

If you are like most people, you feel you don’t have enough of time or money. And you are probably right. But if you were asked to choose between the two, your answer would be revealing. If you choose time, it means you’ve reached a point in life where your perspective and what you consider real has changed. You have come to the milestone which reads ” Time can buy you money, but no amount of money can buy you time

            This understanding will colour the way you look at your future. You have realized that time is finite. The issue now is to make most of this time that you may have available.

The challenge is not to count the minutes, but to make the minutes count.

What are some tips to achieve that?

1. Take and use time to “sharpen the saw”. 

Set apart few minutes in a day to reflect on the past day, past week and ferret out the things and people that mattered and you enjoyed the most. How can you find ways to do that more often? And is there a way to include more people that matter in your life into this activity? Family outings, Dinner with friends, discussion on a book you read….

If there were wasted moments ….how do you avoid those in the future? Telemarketing calls, long telephone conversations about no subject in particular, hours of TV on nothing that mattered……..

If there were wasted opportunities….what could you do to recognize those and act instead of procrastinating? Will some learning and education help?……

Use these reflections and build the future with the answers to some of the above….you would certainly notice the change …..suddenly you’ll have the minutes that count, instead of you counting the minutes!

More to come in this series…..and meanwhile feel free to add your comments and suggestions. Thank you!

DT 

  

 

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How do you cheer someone up to get them smiling again?

October 20th, 2007

When you’re chewing on life’s gristle
Don’t grumble, give a whistle
And this’ll help things turn out for the best…
And…always look on the bright side of life…
Always look on the light side of life.
Monty Python’s Life of Brian

 
Emotions, moods…..we were born with them. Even the most content, disciplined and self-controlled individual would have had moments that he/she would ascribe to as “down in the dumps”, ” not my day”, “miserable”, “rainy day” ……..etc. It is only human to have these low energy days…..even machines have down time, don’t they?

So what does one do…when in that situation? Or maybe it’s a friend or a loved one that you need to help? Well, we are all different individuals, and we all deal with this in our own special ways.

If it was me, I’d need some space and time to clear up my head and get my energy back before I’d deal with the problem. I’d rather spend this time with myself first, so that I don’t download my problem on to someone else, at the same time not have someone down load their issues on to me while I am at my low.

 I would look for things to do ….things I do well ….let’s say strum some tunes on my guitar or jazz some up on my keyboard, go and find a funny movie or a book to get my mind to lighten up, cook a meal for my family that would get them drooling at the dinner table, fix some thing around the house that may be broken which has been on my procrastination list……well I could go on…. The point is to build, create or give ….and get your spirits to come back to that level of self worth and confidence, where you feel like you are at peace with yourself.

Next I would take some time to analyze my situation or the issue which got me to that low point in the first place. This probably means not just knowing the root causes of what got me here, but also taking some painful steps/actions, some life adjustments to ensure that I don’t go there again. Was it some bad company that pushed me down the wrong path? Are there some bad habits that is keeping me from doing my best? Maybe I need to find some better ways for spending my time than wasting it away, playing video games all night, or being a couch potato? Maybe I need to put some time in to developing myself and my skills and find a job which I will enjoy? Again, sometimes this may be something beyond just yourself. You may need the help of an expert, a professional in that area where you need help……or maybe just a trusted friend or family member would do.

The critical thing is to act, after you know what to do!

Share your thoughts …let your wisdom and experience help someone else!

I came across this article at

http://www.essortment.com/lifestyle/cheersomeone_szav.htm 

Some good suggestions here? Feel free to add many more…….Cheer up!

 

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Some Motivation from Steve Jobs- CEO Apple Computers & Pixar Animation (let this blow you away…..)

October 7th, 2007

Does a bad start in life scare you… defeat you….make you feel like you didn’t get a chance to get started like everybody else?

Cheer up! Hear from somebody who started life with rejection and went on to build history…let this blow you away and all the false ideas that you have about the “bad start” and other setbacks that may be holding you back…Stay Hungry, stay foolish…soak this up….it’s worth every letter, word, minute….

Video - courtesy You Tube : Steve Jobs’ speech at Stanford commencement

Transcript of the speech:

Thank you. I’m honored to be with you today for your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. Truth be told, I never graduated from college and this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation.

Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories. The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first six months but then stayed around as a drop-in for another eighteen months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out? It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife, except that when I popped out, they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking, “We’ve got an unexpected baby boy. Do you want him?” They said, “Of course.” My biological mother found out later that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would go to college.

This was the start in my life. And seventeen years later, I did go to college, but I naïvely chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life, and no idea of how college was going to help me figure it out, and here I was, spending all the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back, it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out, I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me and begin dropping in on the ones that looked far more interesting.

It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms. I returned Coke bottles for the five-cent deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the seven miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example.

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer was beautifully hand-calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and sans-serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me, and we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts, and since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them.

If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on that calligraphy class and personals computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do.

Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college, but it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward. You can only connect them looking backwards, so you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something–your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever–because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well-worn path, and that will make all the difference.

My second story is about love and loss. I was lucky. I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents’ garage when I was twenty. We worked hard and in ten years, Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4,000 employees. We’d just released our finest creation, the Macintosh, a year earlier, and I’d just turned thirty, and then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew, we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so, things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge, and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our board of directors sided with him, and so at thirty, I was out, and very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating. I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down, that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure and I even thought about running away from the Valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me. I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I’d been rejected but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods in my life. During the next five years I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the world’s first computer-animated feature film, “Toy Story,” and is now the most successful animation studio in the world.

In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT and I returned to Apple and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance, and Lorene and I have a wonderful family together.

I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful-tasting medicine but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life’s going to hit you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love, and that is as true for work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work, and the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking, and don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it, and like any great relationship it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking. Don’t settle.

My third story is about death. When I was 17 I read a quote that went something like “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself, “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “no” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something. Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important thing I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life, because almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago, I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctors’ code for “prepare to die.” It means to try and tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next ten years to tell them, in just a few months. It means to make sure that everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope, the doctor started crying, because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and, thankfully, I am fine now.

This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope it’s the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept. No one wants to die, even people who want to go to Heaven don’t want to die to get there, and yet, death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It’s life’s change agent; it clears out the old to make way for the new. right now, the new is you. But someday, not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it’s quite true. Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice, heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalogue, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stuart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late Sixties, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and Polaroid cameras. it was sort of like Google in paperback form thirty-five years before Google came along. I was idealistic, overflowing with neat tools and great notions. Stuart and his team put out several issues of the The Whole Earth Catalogue, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-Seventies and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath were the words, “Stay hungry, stay foolish.” It was their farewell message as they signed off. “Stay hungry, stay foolish.” And I have always wished that for myself, and now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you. Stay hungry, stay foolish.

Thank you all, very much.

STEVE JOBS   

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Challenges ….how do you treat them?

September 19th, 2007

In the book of life, the answers aren’t in the back.
Charlie Brown   

Life is a great big canvas, and you should throw all the paint on it you can.
Danny Kaye 

During my lifetime I have dedicated myself to this struggle of the African people, I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons live together in harmony and with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live for and to achieve. But if it needs be it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.
Nelson Mandela 

Look at a day that starts with your Partner serving you breakfast in bed. And as you laze around and get out of bed….and finish your morning routine, and come back to get dressed for work…you find your clothes for work all neatly laid out for you. As you drive to work, you have a clear road ahead, and you sail in smoothly into your office. Half way through this already fantastic day, your boss calls you in and gives you the news that all your hard work has resulted in the company closing a multimillion dollar deal, and you are being promoted in recognition for that. You ask, is this for real? Yes, why not? But could all days turn out to be like this…..most likely not.

Contrast this to another day…..where you had a late night and have to kick yourself out of bed, then scramble to find your socks and underwear, and since you are running late already…hurry out on an empty stomach, only to find out that you have a flat tire. You call a taxi and since it’s peak hours, fret and fume while the cab crawls through the traffic. And you realize as you walk through your door, that the meeting notes and documents for this morning’s project meeting are still lying on your coffee table at home. No brownie points for guessing how the rest of the day went….

Simple every day living….includes both kinds of days. Could happen to anyone……the easy, perfect day and other challenging ones.

Challenge- is defined somewhere as ” Stimulating test of abilities - a test of somebody’s abilities, or a situation that tests somebody’s abilities in a stimulating way”

Yet on a challenging day….although expected result is that one should rise above and pass the test and feel stimulated ( like in the definition), the truth most often, is the opposite. “Life is so unfair”, ” Why does this always happen to me?” “When will I see a brighter day” …..and so on are the likely reactions.

When I am in this state of mind, my source of inspiration often times, is a Biblical character named Joseph. From the old testament….. Joseph’s story talks about how his jealous brothers constantly try to put him down and finally sells him off to slave traders. The story goes on to describe the many adversities that Joseph went through in Egypt and finally becomes the most trusted officer in Pharaoh’s court. In the end, Joseph saves his family from a famine stricken situation and provides for them to live happily ever after.

The same results show through the lives of many famous people like George Washington, Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela……there are so many examples. How do they do it?

One possibility is that they see each adversity as a test of their abilities, to tide over the situation ( in true alignment with the definition above) and that probably moves them into a higher gear and gets them to draw on their strengths, rather than focus on what went wrong during the day, weeks, months,…maybe past years.

Another possibility is that they learn from their mistakes( if the adversities happen to arise out of their own folly), and use that inconvenient/painful experience to take them to a higher level of self awareness, rather than let it defeat their spirit.

Yet again, these individuals seemed to have a really larger picture of life before them, rather than just today, few months or even few years ahead or behind them. A United Free America, an Independent India, an apartheid free South Africa ……dreams and visions which were larger than life…..so in their picture frame….a bad day? Hardly relevant….insignificant, maybe. The big picture seemed to be their driving force, their North Pole and their inner strength.

Some pointers here for us ordinary folks?…maybe! Feel free to add your thoughts and comments.

DT

 

               

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On the subject of Fear…..

August 31st, 2007

Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
Marie Curie 

Fear…..one of the basic human emotions, since the beginning of time. Fear breaks down people and keep them from progressing……. OR on the other hand, Fear gets some to perform at their peak (very often at the cost of someone else.). Interesting isn’t it?  In either case, the basic driving force being the same, perhaps what is different maybe, is how the individual responds to Fear. 

All through history, the stories are told about the human response to Fear……being either Fight or Flight. Both these responses were again, reactions based on the mental make up of the individual. Is there another way to respond, overcome or manage Fear?

It seems the root of Fear is the lack of knowledge.

The stone age people…..how did they respond to fear? They worshipped all that they couldn’t understand or couldn’t control……like the Sun, the Ocean, Thunder etc.

In this 21st century, man does not worship the Sun, Ocean or Thunder….what has changed then? The curious minds, the folks who call themselves scientists, pushed the boundaries, and sought ways of exploring,understanding and controlling all they could get their hands and minds on…… and then, the emotion called Fear no longer existed, once knowledge and understanding gave way to the unknown.

This is the secret of managing Fear.

Afraid of making that presentation? Afraid of giving that job interview? Afraid of the examination that is coming up? Afraid of losing your money in the stock market? Afraid of losing your job? 

The gap only exists between progress and setbacks due to the lack of knowledge. Bridge that gap, and you’ll find yourself moving to the next level. Are we willing to focus the energy that we spend on fear….the energy to fight, to defend, to retreat, to blame, to escape, to live in denial …… instead focus the energy on finding what we should know & learn and gain that knowledge?  That would be the beginning of a new individual, a new family, a new community, a new nation and a new world!

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Losers quit when they fail……Winners fail till they succeed!

August 25th, 2007

Not so long ago, I considered myself a failure.

Had it not been for the many hundreds of people who kept saying ” Yes, you can do it!” and ” Hey, let’s look at why that happened…there is something in there, you know!” and ” I’ve been there before and here’s what I did” …… but for them, I wouldn’t be here.

This site is dedicated to those wonderful friends and well wishers who made me get up and walk, each time I fell. And the journey continues…..’

So hello and thank you for visiting us today. Feel free to browse our pages and add your comments or feedback while you are here. We hope you’d find something meaningful and of value to you and thus leave you in good cheer!

Nikki & Dilip

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